Thursday, March 12, 2015

The Miracle Before Take Off

So in order for me to get to our time in India I have to share the miracle God  provided before we even boarded the plane to Bangalore. Most of you know there was drama behind Jon's visa but let me explain a little more in detail what the weeks were like leading up to travel.

Jon and I applied for our visas back in August of 2014. I received my passport and visa back in a matter of weeks but the journey to Jon's visa was a very different story. After well over a month of no news we found out that the embassy required Jon to submit a religious undertaking letter. Once that was submitted we were told that his application had been sent off for further clearances. Months went by and we were told this was normal and that there was nothing to worry about. By the time December rolled around we started to get a bit nervous. Our case had passed court and all we were waiting on was our daughter's passport which could come at any time. Jon was able to get ahold of *Vickie (names have been changed to keep the privacy of those working in the visa office) in the escalations department who said that she would spend an entire day contacting the embassy in DC to try and get to the bottom of our case. She told Jon to call her back the following Tuesday at 10:00am. Jon called her back on Tuesday and no one answered. He left a message and never heard back. He continued to call over the following days and weeks but he couldn't get through to anyone. Eventually her voice mail was full and he had no other options.

January rolled around and we got the long awaited call that our daughter's passport was ready and our agency wanted us to get our travel plans in place. It was a moment with many mixed emotions. I always imagined that call would be thrilling but instead it was muted by the uncertainty of Jon's visa. He got on the phone that day and tried everything he could to get more answers. With no luck contacting Vickie Jon began calling the 1-800 number for the visa processing agency connecting him with a call center in India which of course got us no where.

These days and weeks leading up to travel were bathed in prayer and I began setting aside time daily to pray specifically for Jon's visa to come through but as the days dwindled by it appeared that God's will was for me to fly to India without Jon. We decided to book tickets for my dad to accompany me to India instead. On Tuesday of the week of travel Jon got a phone call from *Gina a random woman in a different department at the visa company. She finally told him that if he wanted the 10 year visa he applied for in August it would take another couple of months but if he was willing to settle for a three month single entry visa he could have it tomorrow!! What?!? Why did it take so long for someone to tell us this?!? Jon quickly said yes, I'll take the three month visa. She said she would check into it and call him back later that night. We never heard back.

The following day Jon called Gina and couldn't get in touch with her and so on a whim he called Vickie again and after almost an entire month of nothing he heard her voice on the other end of the phone. He explained all that had happened since they last talked and she quickly told him that what he was told the day before didn't sound right. Vickie said that Gina didn't normally work with visas and was unfamiliar with that process. Vickie basically told Jon that there was no way his visa would be back in time for him to travel. He was crushed. Vickie did say that she would contact the courier who picked up visas and passports from the embassy to see if he knew anything and would call us back at 5:00pm. Meanwhile we were in talks with Adoption Airfare as they were holding tickets for Jonathan just in case his paperwork came through. We had until 6:00pm that night to hold his tickets but if we canceled after that time we would be out the entire cost of the tickets. That is a lot of money! 5:00pm came and went...Vickie didn't call so Jon called her at 5:30 and we heard news that we never expected in a million years to hear...the courier had Jon's visa and passport in hand and was going to deliver it later that evening. In less than 24 hours Jon went from thinking he was getting his passport, to believing all was lost to being told again that yes he would indeed get his passport in time! We kept Jon's tickets and waited for confirmation but we never got a call back that evening...shocking. :-)

On Thursday morning (the day before travel) Jon called the visa company back again and was finally told that his passport and visa were indeed being overnighted that day. He would have it in hand on Friday, the same day we were scheduled to fly to India. They reassured us that if we used FedEx priority overnight it would get to us on Friday before noon. So...we paid the $70 and had that precious package overnighted.

Friday was a blur as we checked and re-checked our bags, checked and re-checked our paperwork and anxiously awaited FedEx to arrive. At 11:30am (thirty minutes before we had to be out the door to the airport) we saw a truck pull into our driveway and we all gathered at the door. The FedEx driver asked if we were expecting her...good grief she had no idea! Jon briefly told her our story and asked to take a picture with her. She obliged and said that the next time she was in our area she would try and stop by to meet our daughter.


Looking back at this journey there is no possible way this could have come about by sheer luck or happenstance. We saw the Lord's hand at work bringing about a huge answer to prayer. I mean we're talking a last minute ram in the thicket kind of a deal. During the waiting Jon went through a roller coaster of emotions. Maybe one day I'll have him write about all that the Lord taught him in those difficult weeks because it was a beautiful time of brokenness and surrender to God but that is a whole blog post in and of itself.

God was beyond faithful and saw fit to orchestrate Jon's travel to India so with that precious package in hand we headed out the door to the airport. Stay tuned for my next post about another unexpected delay, travel and our long awaited gotcha day!

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

One Month Home

It is hard to believe we have been home a whole month. So much has changed in a matter of weeks and it's difficult to even begin to express all of the emotions and experiences that have been a part of our reality lately. In the coming days I hope to begin writing about our time in India, but for now I thought you all might want an update on our new normal.

So what has life been like since coming home? Honestly, Hadassah has done amazingly well. She is such a trooper and has dealt seamlessly with all of the changes she has experienced in such a short amount of time. She is curious, vocal and has an infectious laugh. Haddie is very much a mama's girl, which definitely takes some adjusting.
This...
 is what happens when I can't hold her all the time.

I am still sorting out how to get things done since she likes to be in my arms more often then not. While we were in India it took her a while to warm up to Jon but since we have arrived home she goes to daddy quite often and enjoys his attention.

She likes wearing his hats and playing hide and go seek, and most recently duck, duck, goose with her brother. We haven't quite figured out logistically how that last game works with only two kids but...they have fun! ;-)

She loves having her hair brushed and wearing bows.

Did I mentioned that she is a ham?

Like her brother...

We have tons of awesome pictures but our pictures don't always tell the whole story. Life when we first got home was hard...we still have quite a few hard days. Aiden struggled a lot in the beginning, which is understandable since it has been him, mom and dad for four and a half years now. It's not like we brought home a newborn that just laid around but we brought home a toddler who quickly got into his stuff and demanded mom and dad's attention. The first week home was difficult and full of trial and error as our family tried to figure out how to make things work. What is our routine like? How do we divide attention between two children with very different needs and backgrounds? How do I make time to spend with the Lord? How do Jon and I still make time for each other? It has been a balancing act and one I still haven't quite figured out but we are taking it one day at a time. It's exhausting and overwhelming but a journey I would most certainly take again.

I was sharing with a friend something that caught my attention during my time quiet time. I was reading through the Gospel of Mark and was struck by the demands put on Christ during his earthy ministry. Everywhere he went he was followed by throngs of people requesting healing, demanding miracles and longing to be fed, not just physically but spiritually as well. He was pressed on every side, pouring himself out daily because of his mercy and love towards his people. How often do I feel drained and poured out for my little ones? Daily? Looking at the selflessness of Christ has had a huge impact on me during my rough days. This work that is being done, parenting two children and one with a very complex background is redeeming work. As I feed, clothe, clean up messes, play and interact with my children I am attempting to show them a little glimpse of my Savior. Is my attempt a feeble one? Of course it is and I mess up more than I succeed but I'm learning in a small way the depth of love and grace I was shown on the cross. Daily I am learning more about the sweet love that Jesus poured out to me in my neediness and sin and I am blown away...humbled. It helps me take on a new day with hope even though the day before was awful. I am being refined and hopefully my children are seeing Jesus in the mess.

We are walking a road of redemption and it's awesome, hard and exhausting but it's what we are called to do and we are beyond blessed. Today I'm praising the Lord that we don't walk this messy road alone but that our Savior has already prepared the way.